Free E-Book Offer For You

I have written a  book titled Addressing Trauma, Grief and Loss - A Personal Journey,  in response to very many requests for help with this vexing issue.  This electronic book is available free, as a service to you and your friends.

The book is my attempt to be of assistance in a very emotional area. In it I have firstly related my personal experience of grief and loss, and then have gone on to offer some different strategies which have come out of this experience. I have taken the liberty of reproducing questions that I have been asked with my answers (no holds barred). Please know that this small book, coming from my experience, does not attempt to be or to provide a definitive answer to everyone's grief issues, however it does offer a way forward.

There is a “catch” - I would like your comments on the book. Could you please email or telephone me with any feedback you have about its contents or perhaps any result from putting the strategies into action in your life. Why? Because, sometime, I would like to publish it as hard copy and I’m sure it can be improved by your input.

It often takes a crisis before we discover our inner strength. When faced with grief and loss, we can allow ourselves to be overwhelmed by the pain, or we can choose to work through it and grow from the experience.

Going through the emotions associated with grief and loss is a normal part of the grieving process and it is necessary to reconcile ourselves in some way so that we can move on from the experience to become a better, stronger person with a greater sense of purpose in life as a result.

Here’s the Foreword to - Addressing Grief and Loss

Over the last 18 years I have conducted more than 1000 seminars, 3 hour, 1 Day, 2-Day and 4-Day CALM Life Skills Seminars. These seminars are about how to tap into and use the deeper inner mind, the subconscious mind, to achieve anything we wish to do, faster and easier … including accelerated learning, changing or creating new habits, or handling grief and loss - I call it “Life Skills” learning. After I dealt with my own traumatic experience resulting from the shotgun murder of my three teenage daughters Jenny, Kirsty and Lexie (who were killed 20 years ago), using the methods outlined in this book, I felt compelled to start to teach others and share these powerful techniques.

This book is about dealing with and moving through any trauma which often involves grief and loss. Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately, because we can learn so much from adversity) all of us will be facing this issue probably more than once in our life time. We cannot escape things like having friends move away, having to move from one town to another, or losing a pet, or losing a job, or losing a loved one through death and many other kinds of trauma too numerous to mention. I believe that we can use the methods outlined to deal with traumas which occurred many years ago and yet have not been completely "handled".

I have discussed my own experiences in this area during radio interviews, on TV programs including "Sixty Minutes" and "Australian Story", in the written media and during my seminars. During my seminars, or on the telephone, or by email, many people have discussed, questioned, or sought clarification, about many grief and loss issues. I have thousands of words on the subject and I am grateful to my daughter, Lara, for distilling these words into this book which has the purpose of helping others to deal with their own grief and loss.

My major recommendation is always to come to terms with the issues of any trauma or grief and loss, (never push it down), go through it - and learn from the experience. A major tool that I offer to assist the process and move through guilt, blame, resentment, (and more), and to change negative thoughts like hatred, anger and revenge into acceptance, love and forgiveness is to use my meditation CDs: Acceptance and Letting Go, Unconditional Love and Forgiveness and thus gain a sense of understanding and Inner Peace.

Chapter Headings For - Addressing Trauma, Grief And Loss - A Personal Journey

Chapter 1 Introduction
Chapter 2 Sandy’s Personal Story
Chapter 3 Grief and Loss - Challenges
Influence Of The Subconscious
Negative Emotions
* Guilt
* Asking "why me?"
Grief Before The Death Of A Loved One
Chapter 4 Grief and Loss - Moving Forward
Talking To Other People
Writing Down Thoughts And Feelings
Introducing "The Light"
Letting Go
Acceptance And Co-operation
Unconditional Love

Chapter 5   Self Forgiveness

Chapter 6   Concluding Encouraging Words

Chapter 7   Special Addendum for Recent Tragedy



Appendix 1 - New CDs Moving Onward - 2 Pack
Appendix 2 - Questions And Answers
Appendix 3 - About The Sixty Minutes Program On 1 April 2001
Appendix 4 - Live Chat Following Sixty Minute Program
Appendix 5 - Australian Story Program 19 July 2001
Appendix 6 - Testimonies From Seminar Participants
Appendix 7 - Building A Peaceful Place And Induction
Appendix 8 - Sandy’s Available Product And Seminars

Questions Covered In Appendix 2

Does Time Heal?
Will Forgiveness Help? And, How Do I Handle My Guilt?
Where do you put the anger? When do you get your say?
Does Religion play a Part?
We Have a Choice!
Eradicate the bastards - will you??
How do 'Rehabilitated criminals' come to terms with being reminded of past sins?
Can one ever forget traumatic events?
Are you aware of “A Course in Miracles”?
Any advice on coping with life and at court please?
Advice on struggling with attachment to my ex-partner?

2 CD Pack - Moving Onward

Within the book Addressing Grief and Loss, I have suggested the use of 3 guided meditations, to work through the grief and loss issue.  There is a guide on how you can make the meditation tapes for yourself, if you choose to, together with the words I use in these guided meditations that are, spoken on the relevant CDs.

Many people have requested the meditations on CD, so I offer them to you as a special Moving Onward - 2 Pack at the price of $50 (Plus postage and packing). The first two tracks on the Forgiveness CD, are Building your Peaceful Place and Getting to Your Peaceful Place in 3 Minutes, these need to be played as a first step, that is, prior to any meditation. Both Acceptance and Letting Go and Unconditional Love are on one CD.

So, if you wish to read this book or to forward it to someone who is struggling with trauma, grief and loss just click here.

Good luck and be easy on yourself

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